It took me a year but I decided to start blogging again.
I say that I decided but if I'm honest I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I should have a blog and it seemed like a good idea. By "a lot" I mean three, but three can be a lot, can't it? Like, if I had three different kinds of cancer I would call it a lot. "I have a lot of cancer," I might say. "Can someone summon the devil for me?" I'm assuming I wouldn't have the wherewithal to summon him myself on account of having a lot of cancer.
Well, that took a turn.
If you are one of the three people who suggested that I have a blog and you have gone through and read the old stuff I posted I feel like I have a lot of 'splainin to do and I'd rather do it now so we can all move on together to more interesting topics like That Time I Accidentally Bought a Ukulele Instead of a Jim Carrey Movie, and Once Upon a Time A Guy Paid Me Twenty Bucks to Touch His Eyebrows.
(I later punched that man in the face.)
I've read through my previous posts on this blog and have compiled a list of questions that you may have so that what I post going forward won't seem like such a departure. I would call it a FAQ but they're not actually all questions and not only have they not been asked frequently but I in fact made them all up myself, so ... you know. Let's just get this out of the way, because you've probably got Pokemon to catch or Dat Boi memes to post. I know I need to go online and find more recent pop culture references to use next time I blog. Just typing "Dat Boi" felt wrong.
Q: Why were you so fixated on being single?
A: Because I used to be active in the Mormon church and I attended a congregation for single adults between the ages of 18 and 31. Every single week someone would talk about how we all needed to get married and have children because otherwise we wouldn't count as real people.
That's not exactly what was said but that's what was implied. Despite the fact that all of us could vote and fight in the military we were not treated like adults because we were single.
I could also go on about the problems inherent in 18-year-old women and 30-year-old men being in the same dating pool but I would sound like a very bitter woman in her thirties, whereas in reality I am only moderately bitter.
I could go on about a lot of things vis-a-vis the singles ward, and I probably will later, but for now let's just say that I was taught to fixate on my single status.
Q: Why aren't you Mormon anymore?
A: Hoo boy. That is a three-hour story. And a lot of it is very deeply personal. But I will say that I don't hate Mormons, or the Mormon church, and for the most part I don't have any bad feelings. Some of the people I love most are Mormon and I hope that they always will be. It just didn't work out for me. I honestly can't imagine myself ever going back. Too many things would have to change both in the church and in my life and it seems extremely unlikely.
Q: What does your family think about you not attending church?
A: I'm assuming they're disappointed but we don't talk about things in my family. We're much too passive-aggressive. But being disappointed in me is part of the experience of knowing me, so that's probably not a new phenomenon.
Q: Do you still maintain your list of faults?
A: It still exists. I just haven't updated it in ages. I could probably double it if I did.
Q: Are you still single?
A: Yes, but also no. I'm gonna write about that later.
Q: What happened with the tiny potatoes?
A: I suspected Marxism and I threw them away.
Q: Did you ever wear your snazzy dress again?
A: I did, twice, but after the first time the snazziness seemed to have worn off. I'm just not a dress person. I'm more of an Underoos person. Did you know they make Underoos for adults? They do. They make Underoos for adults. Granted, they're not usually appropriate for the sort of occasion people wear dresses to. But I usually just don't go to those. If I have to dress up for your party, I am not going to your party. Friends don't invite friends to themed celebrations.
Q: Are you actually going to keep this blog updated this time or are you going to do it for a month and give up again?
A: Gonna try to keep this one going, although I've been under the weather lately. If it turns out I've got a lot of cancer, I'm giving up.
Thursday, September 29, 2016
Saturday, June 6, 2015
Oh, hi, Mark.
I've heard it said that everyone is good at something.
I don't believe that for a second because I know too many people and plenty of them aren't good at anything. I am one of those people.
I can tell you I don't have money. But what I do have are a very particular set of skills, skills I have acquired over a very long career. Also a bad habit of speaking in movie quotes. But all that aside I am a world-class quitter.
I don't think there's anything I've ever started that I didn't quit, present job excluded. I have quit two sports, six different musical instruments, dozens of friendships, three jobs, two colleges, and one religion (three times). I quit sewing, learning Spanish, washing my car, cooking, paying credit card bills, and this blog. Blogger informed me that my last update was over a year ago.
Although I had 16 pageviews last month. Who the hell are you people? If you're looking for Juno-nominated singer-songwriter Jill Barber, I'm soorry (Canadian sorry) you didn't find her. Try jillbarber.com, which that bitch bought before I could. Shouldn't she have to be jillbarber.ca since she's from Halifax? That's been bothering me since 2005. Someday when I'm dying of lung cancer that has metastasized to the rest of my body and robbed me of my facial elasticity, I will shake a frail fist between coughs and wheeze, "It's not fair; she's Canadian!" before asking a hospice nurse for more morphine.
I imagine this happening in maybe 2025 or so, but that's just me being responsible and putting together my 10-year plan.
I digress. I am considering resurrecting this blog. I haven't done so yet; consider this post as more of an exhumation. Is that a word? I think it's a word. If it wasn't it is now. The long and short of it is that I miss writing and pretending that I'm terribly clever and that people want to read what I have to say. I want to do that again. I want to pretend.
I'm going to re-read this in a few days, poke at the bones of it, see if there's enough flesh left to bother raising the dead. And if there is I've got to have a long talk with my mother before I start saying what I want to say.
Especially since I think all 16 of those pageviews might have been her ... except that one in Alaska. Again, Alaska?
Stalker.
I don't believe that for a second because I know too many people and plenty of them aren't good at anything. I am one of those people.
I can tell you I don't have money. But what I do have are a very particular set of skills, skills I have acquired over a very long career. Also a bad habit of speaking in movie quotes. But all that aside I am a world-class quitter.
I don't think there's anything I've ever started that I didn't quit, present job excluded. I have quit two sports, six different musical instruments, dozens of friendships, three jobs, two colleges, and one religion (three times). I quit sewing, learning Spanish, washing my car, cooking, paying credit card bills, and this blog. Blogger informed me that my last update was over a year ago.
Although I had 16 pageviews last month. Who the hell are you people? If you're looking for Juno-nominated singer-songwriter Jill Barber, I'm soorry (Canadian sorry) you didn't find her. Try jillbarber.com, which that bitch bought before I could. Shouldn't she have to be jillbarber.ca since she's from Halifax? That's been bothering me since 2005. Someday when I'm dying of lung cancer that has metastasized to the rest of my body and robbed me of my facial elasticity, I will shake a frail fist between coughs and wheeze, "It's not fair; she's Canadian!" before asking a hospice nurse for more morphine.
I imagine this happening in maybe 2025 or so, but that's just me being responsible and putting together my 10-year plan.
I digress. I am considering resurrecting this blog. I haven't done so yet; consider this post as more of an exhumation. Is that a word? I think it's a word. If it wasn't it is now. The long and short of it is that I miss writing and pretending that I'm terribly clever and that people want to read what I have to say. I want to do that again. I want to pretend.
I'm going to re-read this in a few days, poke at the bones of it, see if there's enough flesh left to bother raising the dead. And if there is I've got to have a long talk with my mother before I start saying what I want to say.
Especially since I think all 16 of those pageviews might have been her ... except that one in Alaska. Again, Alaska?
Stalker.
Sunday, April 13, 2014
Sweetie
Sometimes at work, I'm southern.
It happened on accident at first. I had
helped a Texan find a Morgan Freeman movie and she spent enough time
talking to me at the circulation desk that I subconsciously
internalized her speech patterns. This has happened to me before. I
once listened to the Harry Potter series on cassette tape and I spent
a week talking like I was from Northamptonshire. But at that time I
didn't work in customer service so the only real victims were the
members of my family. I guess it's true that you always hurt the ones
you love.
Anyway. After the Texan left, I took
the next person in line and they owed $65.20 in overdue fines. I told
her how much she owed but because of the Texan when I spoke it came
out sixty-fahv and I noticed
that instead of getting mad, which this lady had been about to do,
her face softened and she smiled. “Oh, of course. Hey, where are
you from?”
I
don't think well on my feet (or my butt, as the case was) and I said
“Mesa” before I could consider the atypical nature of my fahv.
She looked puzzled so I blurted out that my father is from Texas.
This is mostly true, but I could just as truthfully say that my
father is from Westminster, California or Chicago because he grew up
all over the place.
“Oh,
I just love your accent,” the lady told me, and she handed me her
Visa card. I was so nonplussed by her change of demeanor that I
didn't swipe her card fast enough the first time and I had to try
again.
One of
the only advantages to working with the taxpaying public is that
there are myriad opportunities to perform sociological experiments.
This is probably an ethical gray area but I decided last year that as
long as I don't attempt to perform any statistical analyses or
publish in the journal of the American Psychiatric Association, I'm
in the clear. So after the Texas incident, I decided that when I
interacted with customers I was going to speak with an accent.
There
were objections. Not by any supervisors, because I never tell them
when I'm collecting data, but from coworkers who are used to me
talking like a character on an American sitcom. Three customers in on
a Saturday morning, Brittany said, “Jill, that's creepy and you
need to stop.” I made note of her objections in the Excel file I
use to track the results of experiments I perform on coworkers and
switched from East Texas to West Louisiana. After lunch I segued into
rural Virginia.
I
can't speak to the validity of my research methods but after seven
days I seemed to get a better response from customers as a Dallas
native. I also noticed that the accent was working on me; I provided
better customer service when I spoke with a drawl. I tabled the
accent as a full-time experiment but drop fahvs
at least twice a shift and when I need to de-escalate a dispute with
an unhappy customer.
At a
county-wide staff training session last month we were asked for ideas
on how to handle an angry patron and apparently I am the only person
in the Maricopa County Library District who feels that “Pretend to
be Southern” is an acceptable means of calming someone down.
The
only problem with the accent is that it increased incidences of being
addressed as “Sweetie” by about 320%.* I don't know if it's the hair or the cleavage but about
one in three male customers will be unable to stop himself from
calling me by a cutesy nickname, usually “Hon.” But I get
“Sweetie” from both genders equally (approximately one in five
customers) and when I am Southern, it's Sweetie This and Sweetie That
and all of a sudden my smile doesn't quite reach my eyes and I will
shank a B.
I
realize that I've got epic hair and I'm probably showing too much
supraclavicular soft tissue but I am a professional, dammit, and I
would like to be treated with a little respect. Sweetie always feels
demeaning and last year, around the same time I started using
caffeine as a substitute for sleep, I had had enough.
The
first thing I tried was to stop being nice to people at the desk.
This was both convenient and acceptable because the thing about
working for the government is that people expect you to treat them
poorly. I was never rude but I was deliberately unhelpful for
probably a solid week. I was your stereotypical stern librarian,
which I hypothesized would result in more respect. Unfortunately I
grossly underestimated the number of men who have librarian fetishes.
The week culminated in someone's great-grandfather asking, “Do you
want me to pay the fine, or do you want to spank me?”
Although
on the upside, that same week I intimidated a little Mexican guy into
calling me “Sir.” But it takes a lot of effort to be a jerk
consistently and I didn't have the energy for it. I asked the
internet what I could do to command more respect from the taxpayers
of Maricopa County. Most of those things involved effort, too, and
the other thing about working for the government is that people
expect you to be lazy. I don't want to disappoint them, which is why
I spend most of my working hours watching cat videos on YouTube and
playing really juvenile pranks on my coworkers.
The
laziest thing I could think to do was just to start calling people
Sweetie back, and I have gotten away with it every single time. Not
only have I gotten away with it but people have asked for my name and
then e-mailed the branch manager telling her about that nice Jill who
provided exemplary service.
The
downside is that it's hard to break the Sweetie habit. A month after
I started offering reciprocal Sweeties, my supervisor asked if I
would shelve a cart of DVDs and I said, “Sure thing, Sweetie.”
She didn't react, but when I called in sick the next day she did
suggest that maybe I take the next day off too, because she was
worried about me.
I
compared her worry to the data from the rest of my experiment and I
have decided that, in the interest of workplace harmony, the next
time I call my supervisor Sweetie I need to do it with a southern
accent.
*I got a B in
research methods in college. I earned a C but fought my way up to a B
using arguing skills I picked up in the logic class I took that
semester.
Wednesday, January 22, 2014
#selfie
Two days after Christmas, my sister-in-law got into a car accident and as a result I had to join Instagram.
I never really felt like Instagram was for me. I'm not a hipster, for one (I loathe hipsters), and also I've never been struck by the overwhelming compulsion to photograph my food. In addition, I've always felt like people who know me remember what my face looks like without me posting a new picture of it every single day. So what would be the point of Instagram?
But I went shopping with my aunt and cousins after Christmas. I had never been shopping with my aunt and cousins
before. I don’t know that, strictly speaking, I was invited. My
sister-in-law was invited, and she invited me, and then someone hit her car on the freeway and it was just me and my aunt and cousins.
It probably sounds a little cold and unfeeling that we shopped anyway, but my sister-in-law was fine, I swear. On the other hand, I was now shopping with three people I'd never before shopped with. I wasn’t sure how I felt about this, because I strongly suspected that I
wasn’t interested in any of the stores they wanted to go to, but I had
already driven 7 miles to the mall and I was in need of a snazzy dress.
1) Can I put this in the washing machine?
2) Am I comfortable?
3) If a man sees me in this, will he want to “hit that”?
Snazziness has never factored in. But I was
planning on attending a New Year’s Eve dance for which the dress code
was "snazzy." I thought that perhaps my family and I could unite
in the snazzy-dress cause, and unite we did. If we
hadn’t been on the lookout for snazziness, we never would have gone
into a store called Windsor.
If I were a 15-year-old with a spray tan, low
morals, daddy issues, and 2% body fat, I would shop at Windsor. Everything there is
glittery or ridiculous or both. I knew as soon as we went in that I
wasn’t going to find a dress there, mostly because
I am apparently three times the size of the average Windsor shopper. I
found a sparkly skirt that would probably have fit on my leg. I
considered buying two, one for each thigh, and then getting some sort of
tunic to cover my backside, but in the end my thighs
looked a little too big, so I gave up.
I looked around at some other things and found a
bunch of shirts with classy, sophisticated phrases on them like “Hey
Haters” and “YOLO.” But my favorite, my absolute favorite, said
“#SELFIE.” I took a picture of it with my phone, because
the moment needed documentation. Something about this shirt really spoke to me on a primal level, and by "primal level" I mean "my propensity to be giddily delighted by the ridiculous." But in the absence of anything snazzy that would actually cover the parts of me that I am required to cover by law, we left the store.
I did not find a snazzy dress that day, and
eventually my family and I parted ways. As we said goodbye, I made a joke about the selfie
shirt, and my cousin Katy said I should have tried it on and taken a
selfie in it. Why hadn’t I thought of that? Probably because my phone was a Droid 2, which had just celebrated its third birthday by requiring five battery charges a day instead of four. Any time I turned on the screen, I lost 20% of the battery life. Taking a selfie would drain the battery.
I went back to Windsor and took the Selfie shirt to
the fitting room. I was surprised at how much I liked it. I took a
selfie – I took about 15 selfies, actually (taking my phone to 5% battery life), and in every single one I’m
smiling like the joker, showing all 900 of my
teeth.
If I hadn’t been smiling and laughing like a comic book villain, I might have had a clearer head. But I was, and I didn’t, and I decided I needed the selfie shirt in my life.
So I bought it. I feel certain that my sister-in-law could have prevented this; she would have gently reminded me that I am thirty years old and that most people don't understand my sense of humor. She could have stopped me from spending that 15 bucks. But she wasn't there, and so I bought it. I took it up to the register and the salesgirl asked if I’d found everything okay and all I could do was laugh, which probably only added to my resemblance to the Joker. (At one point I stopped laughing long enough to blurt out, “I’m thirty!”)
I did manage to find a snazzy dress later, and my friends and I were photographed at the dance, and I thought, people should see this, and so I put it on Instagram, with the hashtag "snazzy dress." It got worse - on Saturday I took a picture of some fettuccini.
But don't you worry about me. I'm not turning into one of those people, I swear. I'm no hipster. Remember, I hated Instagram before it was cool.
Monday, December 30, 2013
It's My Fault(s)
This is the time of year when many people take stock of their lives and set goals for self-improvement. I've never excelled at the latter, but I am world-class at the former, and here's the proof: I keep a running list of my faults in a Google doc.
I was vaguely aware when I began the list that the endeavor I was about to undertake was perhaps not the most typical thing for a person to do in his or her spare time. But as my mother has so kindly pointed out, I'm not like other people. I considered adding that to my list but I wasn't sure how to phrase it - do I want to count not being like others as a fault, or should I consider mentioning that I keep track of the unkind things my mother says to me? I'm undecided, but I digress. I have a list of my faults, and I make reference to it on occasion, and one of my two blog readers - not you, Alaska - suggested that I ought to explain why I have such a list.
Several months ago in a fit of uncharacteristic self-esteem I said to my mother, "I don't understand why I'm still single." And I meant it.
Despite the fact that the only time a man has ever called me hot was in an emergency room (the nurse who took my vitals told me, "You're pretty hot, there," and I said, "Thank you"), I felt pretty good about myself.
Then my friend Jordan referred to me as a redhead.
There's nothing wrong with being a redhead, of course. It's fine if that's who you are. The thing is, I didn't know that's who I was. I always thought my hair was brown. My driver's license says my hair is brown - of course, it also says I weigh 140 pounds and I don't think that's been true since I was 13, but I digress (again). I usually describe my hair as brown. But here was this guy calling me a redhead. I don't mind being a ginger, I just want to be a self-aware ginger. I started to wonder, what else do others see in me that I don't see in myself?
So I began a journey of self-awareness and the first thing I did was sit down and write a list of my faults. I was going to start by listing my good points but it was a lot easier to think of faults. It became a pretty big list. I'm up to 178 as of last week. Some are more serious (135 - cowardice) and some are just sort of funny (170 - I follow Kanye West on Twitter). I don't recommend listing your faults as an exercise in self-awareness, by the way. First I felt like an awful person for having so many terrible faults. Then I felt like an awful person because I found so many of my faults hilarious (144 - I have used my cleavage for revenge). But on the upside, I have a humorous anecdote for social gatherings ("Yeah, I know I'm a bad driver. It's okay, it's on my list.")
I've just realized I use a lot of parentheses. Sorry about that. I guess I'm up to 179 now.
Anyway. I think that my original intent was to start knocking faults off my list once I had a thorough compilation, but every time I looked at my list again I thought of things that I hadn't written down yet. So the list continues to grow, and I haven't used a single thing on it as a springboard to self-improvement. The fact that I am okay with this state of affairs is on the list as well. Isn't self-awareness more important than self-improvement anyway?
Probably not, so let's pretend that was a rhetorical question.
So I have a list of my faults and I feel pretty good about it. This will be incredibly beneficial if I ever end up in a serious relationship (not likely, but men lower their standards every single day). Most people slowly discover things about their partners that drive them crazy and question how well they really know the person the married. But I can get all my crazy out right away. If my hypothetical pre-fiancé and I start discussing marriage, I can share my Google doc with him. I can say, "I just want to make sure you know what you're getting into. I understand that you think you love me, but please read this list and then tell me you still want to align our respective credit histories." I'd be doing us both a favor.
But Jill, you may be thinking, is that really a good idea? Isn't it better to let these things come out later as you spend your lives together? Slowly and one at at time?
You may not be thinking that. What do I know? But I think my way is fair. I don't want a man to marry me under false pretenses. I have no regrets for regifting a religious wall calendar so I could drink milk out of the carton without Jesus watching me. That's the sort of thing you need to know about a person before you jointly enter into a binding legal and social contract.
I get that maybe my worst-foot-forward approach could keep me single for a long time. But I'm okay with that. Don't worry, you guys - eternity isn't going to be lonely.
I was vaguely aware when I began the list that the endeavor I was about to undertake was perhaps not the most typical thing for a person to do in his or her spare time. But as my mother has so kindly pointed out, I'm not like other people. I considered adding that to my list but I wasn't sure how to phrase it - do I want to count not being like others as a fault, or should I consider mentioning that I keep track of the unkind things my mother says to me? I'm undecided, but I digress. I have a list of my faults, and I make reference to it on occasion, and one of my two blog readers - not you, Alaska - suggested that I ought to explain why I have such a list.
Several months ago in a fit of uncharacteristic self-esteem I said to my mother, "I don't understand why I'm still single." And I meant it.
Despite the fact that the only time a man has ever called me hot was in an emergency room (the nurse who took my vitals told me, "You're pretty hot, there," and I said, "Thank you"), I felt pretty good about myself.
Then my friend Jordan referred to me as a redhead.
There's nothing wrong with being a redhead, of course. It's fine if that's who you are. The thing is, I didn't know that's who I was. I always thought my hair was brown. My driver's license says my hair is brown - of course, it also says I weigh 140 pounds and I don't think that's been true since I was 13, but I digress (again). I usually describe my hair as brown. But here was this guy calling me a redhead. I don't mind being a ginger, I just want to be a self-aware ginger. I started to wonder, what else do others see in me that I don't see in myself?
So I began a journey of self-awareness and the first thing I did was sit down and write a list of my faults. I was going to start by listing my good points but it was a lot easier to think of faults. It became a pretty big list. I'm up to 178 as of last week. Some are more serious (135 - cowardice) and some are just sort of funny (170 - I follow Kanye West on Twitter). I don't recommend listing your faults as an exercise in self-awareness, by the way. First I felt like an awful person for having so many terrible faults. Then I felt like an awful person because I found so many of my faults hilarious (144 - I have used my cleavage for revenge). But on the upside, I have a humorous anecdote for social gatherings ("Yeah, I know I'm a bad driver. It's okay, it's on my list.")
I've just realized I use a lot of parentheses. Sorry about that. I guess I'm up to 179 now.
Anyway. I think that my original intent was to start knocking faults off my list once I had a thorough compilation, but every time I looked at my list again I thought of things that I hadn't written down yet. So the list continues to grow, and I haven't used a single thing on it as a springboard to self-improvement. The fact that I am okay with this state of affairs is on the list as well. Isn't self-awareness more important than self-improvement anyway?
Probably not, so let's pretend that was a rhetorical question.
So I have a list of my faults and I feel pretty good about it. This will be incredibly beneficial if I ever end up in a serious relationship (not likely, but men lower their standards every single day). Most people slowly discover things about their partners that drive them crazy and question how well they really know the person the married. But I can get all my crazy out right away. If my hypothetical pre-fiancé and I start discussing marriage, I can share my Google doc with him. I can say, "I just want to make sure you know what you're getting into. I understand that you think you love me, but please read this list and then tell me you still want to align our respective credit histories." I'd be doing us both a favor.
But Jill, you may be thinking, is that really a good idea? Isn't it better to let these things come out later as you spend your lives together? Slowly and one at at time?
You may not be thinking that. What do I know? But I think my way is fair. I don't want a man to marry me under false pretenses. I have no regrets for regifting a religious wall calendar so I could drink milk out of the carton without Jesus watching me. That's the sort of thing you need to know about a person before you jointly enter into a binding legal and social contract.
I get that maybe my worst-foot-forward approach could keep me single for a long time. But I'm okay with that. Don't worry, you guys - eternity isn't going to be lonely.
Thursday, December 26, 2013
I Ate the Baby Jesus Last
It's Christmas - well, yesterday was Christmas, but whatever - and that makes this the perfect time to explain the title of my blog, which will also be the title of the memoir that I'm going to write if anything ever happens to me that's interesting enough that I should write a memoir. Probably after I marry Prince Carl Philip of Sweden.
Several Christmases ago I received my monthly visit from my home teachers. I expected that they would have some sort of spiritual message to share with me, because that's what they're supposed to do. But after we talked for a few minutes about school and work and things like that, the tables were turned.
One of my home teachers, Richard, said something about how it was important in this busy world to keep Christ as the focus of our Christmas. My words, not his, because if you had ever met Richard you would know that he is not a particularly eloquent person, bless his heart. Anyway. I thought that he would elaborate but then he asked me if I had ever made any special effort to focus on Jesus at Christmas.
I hate questions like that. Part of is because I am really terrible at explaining spiritual experiences. Part of it is because I'm the first to admit that I'm not a very good Christian. I never give money to panhandlers, I swear at bad drivers, and I laugh when I see teenagers fall off their skateboards. I'm not a bad person but I honestly couldn't think of anything specific I'd ever done to keep Christ in Christmas, aside from never having believed in Santa.
I mentioned that last part but Richard was a dog with a bone. "There has to be something you've done, Jill," he said with more than a hint of condescension. I thought his tone was pretty nervy for a man who had seen and enjoyed all three High School Musical movies but I didn't say so. Instead I grasped at the collective seven hours of my adolescence that I haven't suppressed and I started to tell a story. I wasn't sure where I was going with it but then I never am. I usually just start talking and hope that by the time I stop talking I will have gone somewhere.
This is the story that I told Richard.
"When I was a kid, my aunt Sue - she's dead now, but when she was alive, she made my family this white ceramic nativity. She died in a car accident - my aunt, that is, and I remember being told that she'd been asleep in the car, and for like seven years after that I was afraid to fall asleep in the car because I didn't want to die. My aunt looked a little like the Disney version of Snow White. Not that that's important, but she did."
(For some reason I felt the need to mention all of this as part of my Christmas story. Also I don't remember who told me that my aunt was asleep, and I'm not even sure that she was. But I was afraid to sleep in the car until I was about 16.)
"Anyway. It was a really beautiful nativity set and very breakable but my parents trusted me with it because by the time the fourth child comes along they just don't care anymore. And every year I would carefully set up this nativity, and arrange all the pieces just so, and I did them in a particular order, always putting the baby Jesus in last because it seemed like the thing to do.
"One Christmas when I was maybe 15 or 16 - I don't think I was sleeping in the car yet - President Worthen, our stake president, came by the house with a treat for Christmas. President Worthen taught Spanish at the high school, and I didn't like him as a Spanish teacher but as a stake president I guess he was an okay guy. I was going to college soon enough, I hoped, so I kind of didn't care. I did wish I had taken French instead, though."
(I said all this too, because once I start talking I tend to just keep going until someone shuts me up.)
"Anyway. President Worthen and his wife had dropped off this tray that contained a white chocolate nativity, and it looked exactly like the nativity my aunt Sue made! He must have had the same molds or something - 'Except our set has an angel,' I said to my dad, who had answered the door, and he just sort of smirked and I realized he had eaten the chocolate angel between the front door and the kitchen, because that's the kind of guy my dad was.
"I guess my parents weren't big on white chocolate because I remember eating the nativity by myself, and I did it strategically. I thought, I should do this like I do with the ceramic one, and so I ate the pieces in a specific order on certain days, spacing it out, and I saved the holy family for last, for Christmas eve. I wanted to do it right, so I ate the baby Jesus last.
"I really feel like I kept Christ in Christmas that year. And also in my belly."
And that was the last time Richard ever asked me a leading question.
The nativity set my aunt made is mine now, and every year when I set it up, I remember the white chocolate year, and I remember how proud of myself I was for nibbling at the straw before eating the baby, and I think, that's probably one of those things that God made a special note of. When he's reviewing my life with me, I will remind Him that I ate the baby Jesus last, and He will thank me for it before sending me to my cozy little shack in West Hell.
So ... yeah.
Don't ask me to tell you any Christmas stories unless you're prepared to lose respect for me. And if you want to bring me a Christmas treat, remember that I like white chocolate.
Several Christmases ago I received my monthly visit from my home teachers. I expected that they would have some sort of spiritual message to share with me, because that's what they're supposed to do. But after we talked for a few minutes about school and work and things like that, the tables were turned.
One of my home teachers, Richard, said something about how it was important in this busy world to keep Christ as the focus of our Christmas. My words, not his, because if you had ever met Richard you would know that he is not a particularly eloquent person, bless his heart. Anyway. I thought that he would elaborate but then he asked me if I had ever made any special effort to focus on Jesus at Christmas.
I hate questions like that. Part of is because I am really terrible at explaining spiritual experiences. Part of it is because I'm the first to admit that I'm not a very good Christian. I never give money to panhandlers, I swear at bad drivers, and I laugh when I see teenagers fall off their skateboards. I'm not a bad person but I honestly couldn't think of anything specific I'd ever done to keep Christ in Christmas, aside from never having believed in Santa.
I mentioned that last part but Richard was a dog with a bone. "There has to be something you've done, Jill," he said with more than a hint of condescension. I thought his tone was pretty nervy for a man who had seen and enjoyed all three High School Musical movies but I didn't say so. Instead I grasped at the collective seven hours of my adolescence that I haven't suppressed and I started to tell a story. I wasn't sure where I was going with it but then I never am. I usually just start talking and hope that by the time I stop talking I will have gone somewhere.
This is the story that I told Richard.
"When I was a kid, my aunt Sue - she's dead now, but when she was alive, she made my family this white ceramic nativity. She died in a car accident - my aunt, that is, and I remember being told that she'd been asleep in the car, and for like seven years after that I was afraid to fall asleep in the car because I didn't want to die. My aunt looked a little like the Disney version of Snow White. Not that that's important, but she did."
(For some reason I felt the need to mention all of this as part of my Christmas story. Also I don't remember who told me that my aunt was asleep, and I'm not even sure that she was. But I was afraid to sleep in the car until I was about 16.)
"Anyway. It was a really beautiful nativity set and very breakable but my parents trusted me with it because by the time the fourth child comes along they just don't care anymore. And every year I would carefully set up this nativity, and arrange all the pieces just so, and I did them in a particular order, always putting the baby Jesus in last because it seemed like the thing to do.
"One Christmas when I was maybe 15 or 16 - I don't think I was sleeping in the car yet - President Worthen, our stake president, came by the house with a treat for Christmas. President Worthen taught Spanish at the high school, and I didn't like him as a Spanish teacher but as a stake president I guess he was an okay guy. I was going to college soon enough, I hoped, so I kind of didn't care. I did wish I had taken French instead, though."
(I said all this too, because once I start talking I tend to just keep going until someone shuts me up.)
"Anyway. President Worthen and his wife had dropped off this tray that contained a white chocolate nativity, and it looked exactly like the nativity my aunt Sue made! He must have had the same molds or something - 'Except our set has an angel,' I said to my dad, who had answered the door, and he just sort of smirked and I realized he had eaten the chocolate angel between the front door and the kitchen, because that's the kind of guy my dad was.
"I guess my parents weren't big on white chocolate because I remember eating the nativity by myself, and I did it strategically. I thought, I should do this like I do with the ceramic one, and so I ate the pieces in a specific order on certain days, spacing it out, and I saved the holy family for last, for Christmas eve. I wanted to do it right, so I ate the baby Jesus last.
"I really feel like I kept Christ in Christmas that year. And also in my belly."
And that was the last time Richard ever asked me a leading question.
The nativity set my aunt made is mine now, and every year when I set it up, I remember the white chocolate year, and I remember how proud of myself I was for nibbling at the straw before eating the baby, and I think, that's probably one of those things that God made a special note of. When he's reviewing my life with me, I will remind Him that I ate the baby Jesus last, and He will thank me for it before sending me to my cozy little shack in West Hell.
So ... yeah.
Don't ask me to tell you any Christmas stories unless you're prepared to lose respect for me. And if you want to bring me a Christmas treat, remember that I like white chocolate.
Sunday, December 22, 2013
Can I Microwave Fingerling Potatoes?
Every time I eat scrambled eggs I think about how I can never get married.
This is something of a problem because I eat scrambled eggs at least four times each week, and because I would like to someday be married.
At least, I think I do. Sometimes I don't know about this whole marriage thing. In some ways I can picture it and it seems like what I want. I want to be in love with a good man (who loves me back) and be myself around him and have children with him. I genuinely want all that. I can imagine long, deep conversations, and also long and shallow ones that involve a lot of movie quotes. I can imagine falling asleep together in front of the TV, and I can imagine holding hands while watching the sun set.
But there are these other wifely things
that I can't even begin to imagine, and this is where the eggs come in. I am a simple
creature. As mentioned, I eat scrambled eggs for dinner probably four times each week. The other nights, I don't have
scrambled eggs because I'm not eating dinner. I forget to eat ALL THE
TIME. This seems like a problem for a wife. Like, there is someone
else who lives in your house and would appreciate you making them
dinner. And not scrambled eggs four times a week.
You guys, I don't cook. I don't know
how to cook and it doesn't bother me because I live alone and I like
scrambled eggs. But what happens if I'm lucky enough to meet an
amazing man who for some reason thinks I'm pretty amazing too? How do
I explain to him that I hope desperately that he likes scrambled
eggs? What if he doesn't? What do we do? I'll have to buy groceries,
too. I know how to do that, to the extent that my refrigerator
currently contains Dr Pepper, mozzarella cheese, strawberry yogurt, four apples, two dozen eggs, and 27 water bottles. If I am someone's wife my
refrigerator will have to have actual food in it, and it might not be
food that I actually like. How can I justify spending good money on
food I don't even like? I keep reminding myself that I will at least
be having what I will euphemistically refer to as "relations" on a regular basis, which I hope will take the sting out of having to buy bacon and Sriracha.
My mother told me that I can learn to cook when I get married and that I will in fact want to cook for my husband. Apparently marriage involves some sort of personality change that I've not been warned about. Why would I want to learn how to cook for a husband? Isn't it enough that I'm going to be picking up his dirty socks and ironing his shirts and putting the toilet seat back down and pretending to care about his favorite football team?
I don't even love myself enough to cook for real. I never buy potatoes because do you know how long it takes to cook potatoes? I almost made progress a few weeks ago. I saw these tiny potatoes in the produce department and I thought, hey, tiny potatoes can probably go in the microwave. So I bought them. The bag called them fingerling potatoes. As soon as I got them home I turned to Google to figure out what to do with them.
I found a promising recipe right away but then when I read past the ingredients list, the first instruction I saw said, "Preheat oven ..." Preheat oven? Was this a joke? Broil? I don't care if I can broil them. Can I put them in the microwave? That's all I really want to know.
Every recipe I found was absolutely preposterous. EVOO? Pan sear? Who the hell are you people? These are tiny potatoes. The whole reason I bought them is because I thought they would cook faster than large potatoes. Who honestly wants to spend 45 minutes cooking tiny potatoes?
I changed my search to "Can I microwave fingerling potatoes" and I managed to stump the internet. People seemed aghast that anyone would want to microwave a potato. The consensus seemed to be that it was better to use the oven. So I gave up and put the potatoes in a cupboard where they promptly began growing eyes and feelers and I think they've got a proper civilization going in there, next to my cupcake pan. I'm letting them evolve for now but if I learn they're practicing fascism, they're going in the trash.
Maybe this whole marriage thing isn't for me. But that's okay. I don't need love to keep me warm. I have scrambled eggs for that.
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